Resisting to change…

I often wonder what’s it that makes change so hard for many people?

Working with people on a daily bases gives you enough “insight” into peoples habits, things that makes them happy, things that makes them unhappy, things they want to change and things they want to leave untouched and it’s really hard to find a pattern, to find a formula as we are all “so different but so much of the same”.

If I look back in my life I find myself as one of “these people”… I was not one for changing, in fact I was very set on my old ways, the type that would look at you and say “This is who I am! I am NOT going to change, if you don’t like me, deal with it. I was born this way, I will die this way”. Crazy, uh?

Today I can’t even identify with those sentences anymore, much less comprehend where did I got the belief of “being” as such a permanent, unchangable form. Today I think that the concept of “ME’ is very fluid… if I don’t like how something is, I change it.

What got me into the path of changing myself was, of course, Jim Rohn and his classic quote:

“for things to change, you have to change”

That helped me to understand that I could not keep being who I was, keep doing what I was doing and expecting different results. I think it was Einstein that said that the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over and expecting different results.

I see that all the time when it comes to my weight loss challenge participants… someone that has been doing “Weight watchers” for 20 years and wants to keep doing it. With all due respect to “my people” and to weight watchers, if that plan was working the person wouldn’t need to be here, right now. Isn’t it time to change your approach?!

People will always try to repeat “what they know” even if that isn’t helping them to achieve what they want. I can try to come up with all sorts of answers to why is that… conditioning, been scared of the unknown, lack of knowledge, been afraid of succeeding, but the truth is, I don’t know why people resist to change.

So I invite you to think about yourself, think about your resistance (if it’s the case) to new things and come up with your own answers…. What are the old habits that you keep repeating that are stopping you to achieve the results that you want???

Welcome the Fall

Today as I was walking back to the club, I was enjoying the beauty of the leafs changing it colors to “Fall colors”.
I always enjoy the process of the changing seasons and I specially enjoy the Fall which is my favourite! I love the picture perfect scene of sun light hitting the leafs…
The change of the seasons is something that I just had the chance to appreciate and enjoy by living in Canada, as in Brazil (at least where I used to leave) we have  seasons: “Supper hot” and “Not so hot” 🙂
As I reflect on that, I can’t help but thing about one of the biggest life lessons I’ve learned from Jim Rohn that is the understanding of “The Seasons of Life’. Jim Rohn’s philosophy about how life and business are like the changing seasons has helped me to endure during tough time but also to do my best to prepare for the “winters”.
I highly recommend his book “The Seasons of Life” and I will leave you here with something I typed out of a Jim Rohn’s video from Herbalife and adapted it a little by removing the parts that were more for Herbalife distributors.
Hope you enjoy and reflect on it.
Deb

“Life and business is like the changing season…

Winter  follows Fall

Spring follows Winter

Summer, Harvest…the Seasons are set, you can not change those.

But here is what you can do:

You can change yourself!”

Learn how to handle the Winter, the Winters always come. All of us can become wiser than we were yesterday, wiser than we were last week, wiser than we were a month ago.

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Are you selfish?

Yesterday I had an interesting conversation with a group about the excuses we give ourselves to not doing the things we say we are going to do and an interesting point came up for more than one person… the point is “I feel like taking care of myself is selfish on my part”

What do YOU think? Do you feel that if you take the time to take care of you, you are taking that time way from your kids? from your husband? Do you think it’s fair to take 1 hour of a busy schedule to go to the gym (or to come to the challenge)? Do you feel guilty if you do?

Those are all very valuable questions, reflect on it for a moment!

First of, let’s define what it is to be selfish…of course I went to the dictionary for that:

Self·ish [sel-fish] – adjective

  1. devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.
  2. characterized by or manifesting concern or care only for oneself: selfish motives.

I found this TOP ACOTS OF SELFISHNESS in an article that was saying that 7 out of 1 Brits admit to being selfish (I wonder how many canadians would say the same)

Interesting enough, no where in there you can find TAKING CARE OF MYSELF listed! (I must acknowledge that this is not a “official” list, it’s just people’s opinion)

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Israel Klein “prayer”

Israel Klein and I at the Niagara Falls

Israel Klein and I at the Niagara Falls

This is something that was passed on to me my by my dearest friend and mentor Israel Klein.

I have this printed in a paper right in my desk in a way that ideally I can read it everyday.
Hope you like it, here we go…

“I am aware of my positive and negative qualities.
Day after day I shall work on my positive qualities and
I shall get rid of all the negative ones.
I shall make sure that I turn my best traits into the habits that will make me successful.
I promise myself to be strong both mentally and physically, this way nothing will upset the balance
of my spirit, body, my emotional stability and
peace of mind.
I am always friendly towards people around me.
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